{"id":11743,"date":"2016-05-19T11:59:13","date_gmt":"2016-05-19T06:29:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sexdis.13llama.in\/?page_id=11743"},"modified":"2016-10-04T14:14:13","modified_gmt":"2016-10-04T08:44:13","slug":"breaking-up","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/sexualityanddisability.org\/relationships\/breaking-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Breaking Up"},"content":{"rendered":"
Breaking Up<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<\/h1> Deepak Kashyap, counsellor<\/span><\/p>\n Jyotti Savla, counsellor<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Deciding to get out of a relationship is one of the most difficult decisions for anyone to make. The number of years spent together, whether or not there are children involved, one’s financial status, one’s own level of confidence, the availability of housing, the possibility of support from others including parents and friends – all these play a role in this decision. When a relationship is not working or is abusive <\/a>, you may find yourself at a crossroad, trying to figure out whether to stay or to go.<\/p>\n The term ‘walking out’ has a particularly abled connotation. For someone who is in a wheelchair or who cannot see, it may sound more daunting, particularly if the partner is also the caregiver. So in the case of a woman with disability, the dependence is not only a financial dependence, but it could also be the everyday dependence on a partner for daily needs that makes this decision even more difficult. In addition, there is always the fear of not finding someone else.<\/p>\n But being in an unhappy relationship is often far more damaging than not being in one. You will have to weigh the pros and cons of your situation before making this life-changing decision. Perhaps the first step is coming to the realisation that you are in a place that is bad for yourself, and discussing it with the most supportive people you can think of. They may help you find the resources you need – money, support from family and friends, place to stay etc. Stay strong. Take time to decide, but once you decide, don’t let discouragement or criticism change your mind.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n‘Relationships are a very beautiful and divine bonus of life, but not life itself.’<\/span><\/span><\/h4>\n
‘Sometimes it is better to endure the transitional pain of a break up than to bear the constant pain of an undesired, unwanted, or bad relationship.’
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