Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Shower Him Away

'There's a low-level harassment that seems to go without saying, but sometimes things happen that stick. Men have often kicked, grabbed or forcefully pushed me (even at the top of stair cases) when I'm out in my wheelchair. It's scary. Sometimes it's just plain hurtful. Once or twice, I've been in a shop waiting to pay for something and the man behind me decides to wheel me out of the line. Just like that! The first time I went out in my wheelchair my mum and I were so shocked when an aggressive man leaned over me, shook my wheelchair and quickly thrust his groin in my face as he squeezed past. There was about three feet of space in front of us he could have easily used without pressing up against me or moving my chair at all. I was sixteen.

Shower Him Away

'There's a low-level harassment that seems to go without saying, but sometimes things happen that stick. Men have often kicked, grabbed or forcefully pushed me (even at the top of stair cases) when I'm out in my wheelchair. It's scary. Sometimes it's just plain hurtful. Once or twice, I've been in a shop waiting to pay for something and the man behind me decides to wheel me out of the line. Just like that! The first time I went out in my wheelchair my mum and I were so shocked when an aggressive man leaned over me, shook my wheelchair and quickly thrust his groin in my face as he squeezed past. There was about three feet of space in front of us he could have easily used without pressing up against me or moving my chair at all. I was sixteen.

Questions

Question1 Can my disability get in the way of me feeling sexual?
That depends on how your impairment affects your body and mind. It takes energy to explore your body and feel sexual, Read more on Can my disability get in the way of me feeling sexual?

Question2 How important is sex in a relationship?
Says counsellor Deepak Kashyap, 'Sex is very important in a romantic relationship. Because even though every label is open-ended, every label has some meaning to it, Read more on How important is sex in a relationship?

Question3 Will my disability make me an easy victim of sexual assault?
Many women experience sexual assault and rape. They face these at the hands of partners, families, people they interact with, Read more on Will my disability make me an easy victim of sexual assault?