Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Filling The Water

'When I had conceived, my husband and his mother would always say, "Don't worry, god has blessed you with this child, he will bless you with ways to raise him. Don't be tense, all will be well..." I had to face a few problems during pregnancy. I had got high blood pressure which had resulted in bleeding. My husband used to support me a lot. And after I was seven months pregnant, I went to my mother's house to stay. Then mom would take care of me. During my pregnancy I had stopped wearing the caliper. It wouldn't have fit me anyways. Hence I faced a lot of problem in walking and all. My legs and back would pain.

Healing With Physio

'Living day in and day out with tetras and paras [tetraplegics and paraplegics] all in the same Rehab Nursing Home together gave great emotional support to me and my family who were with me all the time. All the patients and their few family members who lived here ate together, exercised together, shared each others' experiences together, moaned and wept together, and laughed together. The emotional acceptance of my ghastly condition became a little easier, since I started feeling, "I am not alone in this." We would chat and tell our stories to each other.

Questions

Question1 I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.
Join the club. The ads you see and hear are designed to sell products, and they've figured the best way to do this is by lowering women's self-esteem (link Self Esteem). Read more on I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.

Question2 What do people mean by safer sex?
Safer sex is often defined as protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV. Read more on What do people mean by safer sex?

Question3 How will I go through labour with my disability?
It is natural to feel anxious about giving birth - irrespective of whether or not you are disabled. Read more on How will I go through labour with my disability?