Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Paraplegic Pregnancy

'Early last week I had the wonderful experience of seeing the baby move-not actually feeling it move yet-but if I would lie down and watch, I could see my belly move. Watching it jump slightly from a kick or punch was the most wonderful experience to witness. It was the first time I actually knew for certain that a baby was growing inside my ever-expanding belly... I had so much fun watching the jumps and bumps of my belly that I began talking to the baby while I could see it thrashing around...Transfers are definitely more difficult with an extra 15+ pounds…Sitting up in bed has proven to be a new sport for me as well. Between my growing belly and my violent spasms, some mornings it takes me several tries to successfully sit up.

Being In A Wheelchair

'I was very nervous and didn't have the usual teenage experience of growing up and being aware of myself as a sexual person. All the emphasis on "the perfect body" doesn't help, especially since there's no way I could ever aspire to what is seen as ideal. Being in a wheelchair limits my ability to move in what you would consider the standard sexual ways. It can be hard enough discussing sex with an established partner, never mind having to be upfront from the start and really spell out the realities - for example, telling someone it hurts when he does that, I have no feeling there or I physically cannot manage to do that.

Questions

Question1 I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.
Join the club. The ads you see and hear are designed to sell products, and they've figured the best way to do this is by lowering women's self-esteem (link Self Esteem). Read more on I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.

Question2 What do people mean by safer sex?
Safer sex is often defined as protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV. Read more on What do people mean by safer sex?

Question3 Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?
Child sexual abuse has been called India's worst-kept secret.A national survey in 2007 across 13 states showed that more than half Read more on Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?