Sexuality and Disability

My Story

One Step At A Time

'We had a client who had vitiligo. Her family stopped her from going to school. Her mother would always tell her that you won't even get a boy to get married, so you will have to do the house work. The girl was forced to work at home, do the household shopping, to sell candles and all during Diwali (to earn money). Her siblings would go to school and have their play hours. But she couldn't. So this girl had come to our organisation and had expressed her wish to run away from home. The girl told us whatever was happening with her. We went to speak with her mother. At first, the mother was unhappy that this girl approached an outsider (organisation).

Struggling With My Body

'When I was younger I really struggled with issues related to my disability, sexuality, and especially incontinence. I remember having a relationship with someone who had never been with someone with a disability - it was new for both of us. I was so fearful about telling him that occasionally when I get sexually excited, I pee. I felt badly about my body and that I couldn't always 'control' it. He kept telling me it was okay and that I didn't need to worry. But it took a long time before I believed him.'

Questions

Question1 Doesn't sex have to involve another person?
Welcome to masturbation, which is all about solo sex (involving you, you and you). Sex with yourself involves you pleasuring your mind and body. Read more on Doesn't sex have to involve another person?

Question2 What do people mean by safer sex?
Safer sex is often defined as protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV. Read more on What do people mean by safer sex?

Question3 Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?
Child sexual abuse has been called India's worst-kept secret.A national survey in 2007 across 13 states showed that more than half Read more on Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?