Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Seeing The Signs

'We had a case here. The child had a learning disability, slight mental retardation, and some disorder which distorts the face, hands and fingers. She is thirteen years old but behaves very much like an eight or nine year old. Her case was brought to our notice by one of the schools training under us. She approached one teacher she is very close to and said "teacher I want to tell you a secret." When the teacher would ask, the girl would say "no no nothing." This went on for fifteen days. The teacher was very calm and patient. One day, she asked the teacher, "teacher have you ever had sex with your boy friend?" They were not on such friendly talking terms, so the teacher asked her,

One Step At A Time

'We had a client who had vitiligo. Her family stopped her from going to school. Her mother would always tell her that you won't even get a boy to get married, so you will have to do the house work. The girl was forced to work at home, do the household shopping, to sell candles and all during Diwali (to earn money). Her siblings would go to school and have their play hours. But she couldn't. So this girl had come to our organisation and had expressed her wish to run away from home. The girl told us whatever was happening with her. We went to speak with her mother. At first, the mother was unhappy that this girl approached an outsider (organisation).

Questions

Question1 No one will see me as sexual because of my disability.
If you've grown up seeing yourself as a nonsexual person because of your disability, it can be hard to start thinking of yourself as sexual or sexy. Read more on No one will see me as sexual because of my disability.

Question2 My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.
This is what psychologist Jyotti Savla has to say on this: 'Yes, it may be difficult to find a loving partner for your daughter, and you are worried about it. Read more on My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.

Question3 I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?
No. In fact, forced medication (especially the use of tranquilizers) is included in the list of practices considered forms of violence. Read more on I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?