Sexuality and Disability

My Story

One Step At A Time

'We had a client who had vitiligo. Her family stopped her from going to school. Her mother would always tell her that you won't even get a boy to get married, so you will have to do the house work. The girl was forced to work at home, do the household shopping, to sell candles and all during Diwali (to earn money). Her siblings would go to school and have their play hours. But she couldn't. So this girl had come to our organisation and had expressed her wish to run away from home. The girl told us whatever was happening with her. We went to speak with her mother. At first, the mother was unhappy that this girl approached an outsider (organisation).

Seeing The Signs

'We had a case here. The child had a learning disability, slight mental retardation, and some disorder which distorts the face, hands and fingers. She is thirteen years old but behaves very much like an eight or nine year old. Her case was brought to our notice by one of the schools training under us. She approached one teacher she is very close to and said "teacher I want to tell you a secret." When the teacher would ask, the girl would say "no no nothing." This went on for fifteen days. The teacher was very calm and patient. One day, she asked the teacher, "teacher have you ever had sex with your boy friend?" They were not on such friendly talking terms, so the teacher asked her,

Questions

Question1 Can my disability get in the way of me feeling sexual?
That depends on how your impairment affects your body and mind. It takes energy to explore your body and feel sexual, Read more on Can my disability get in the way of me feeling sexual?

Question2 How do I prove that I am a good daughter-in-law in spite of my disability?
Who is a 'good daughter-in-law'? The one who fulfils everyone's expectations? Who caters to everyone's needs? Read more on How do I prove that I am a good daughter-in-law in spite of my disability?

Question3 My husband is also disabled. He refuses to have a child because he thinks I will start ignoring him. What do I do?
Try and think for a moment why he may feel this way. Does he think that your love for him will decrease? That you will no longer spend time together? Read more on My husband is also disabled. He refuses to have a child because he thinks I will start ignoring him. What do I do?