For me in the initial years relationships didn't matter because it was all about survival. The need to be in a relationship started four years down the line, when I started getting all right and I started socialising. That's when I realised that ok there is something missing in my life. I suppose I stopped going to social functions and parties because that made me realise that men were not interested in me. I only went to functions where I felt comfortable and accepted...I had decided that I may not get a man. A lot of people felt that why don't I go for someone who is disabled as I am. And for some reason I couldn't digest that.
Not a China Glass
Barry was a tetra [quadriplegic]. He had married the nurse who had taken care of him… He told us that there is more to a sexual relationship than just an orgasm. A loving relationship between partners, even if one of them is paralysed, also naturally consists of foreplay, touching, stroking, kissing and hugging. He told us that when you are paralysed, at first it seems unlikely that you will be able to have any sexual relationship with anyone. This thought is a distressing and worrying one. However, you may have to modify or change some of the sexual activities, and you can still have a meaningful sex life and continue to be sexually acti...