Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Household Work

'There can be many tensions while handling the house... there have been times when I have kept the rice in the rice cooker and according to me pressed the "on" button, but it didn't get cooked. I thought it was cooked, but then when we sat for dinner, my mother-in-law called me and said "See for yourself, the uncooked rice is separate and the water is separate." I still argued my case and said that I had pressed the button, maybe it didn't work. I told her "Okay no problems, let me switch it on now, meanwhile whoever is hungry can have roti." Nobody said anything. Only thing my saas [mother-in-law] said was that "God knows sometimes where does your attention wander."

Desire for Solitude

'I remember clearly when I actually began negotiating the London streets on my own. I would go out frequently, but was always accompanied by my parents or Maya."Can I come and pick you up mum?" I asked one morning. I had just woken up and was still snuggled into my cosy IKEA duvet cover. She was going to the Institute of Education's library to read. It was a beautiful sunny day in London. "Okay, why don't you come with Maya?" said mother as she took her time in picking out her clothes…."No, I would rather come on my own,"I pleaded. I went on nagging her about how I desired solitude at times.

Questions

Question1 I know my family loves me, but they always make me feel like I can't achieve anything on my own.
You aren't alone! The overprotection that families often exercise over a woman with a disability can have damaging consequences for her self-esteem. Read more on I know my family loves me, but they always make me feel like I can't achieve anything on my own.

Question2 I am attracted to someone, but I am scared of being rejected.
Well, you're not alone! The fear of rejection is universal - irrespective of how old you are, what work you do, the way you look, and whether or not you are disabled. Read more on I am attracted to someone, but I am scared of being rejected.

Question3 I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?
No. In fact, forced medication (especially the use of tranquilizers) is included in the list of practices considered forms of violence. Read more on I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?