Sexuality and Disability

Crawling Right To Me

'When I had gone to the Himalayas, I had met with an accident. Later I realised that I had damaged my fallopian tubes in the process. I couldn't conceive. We tried for a test-tube baby, but it wasn't successful. The doctor said we would have to repeat it thrice more. Each sitting of the procedure costed around eighty thousand to one lakh rupees. So instead of doing that, we decided that it is better to adopt. We thought that we rather use those three lakhs (which would have been used in the procedure) for the future of the adopted baby. So we adopted. My brother-in-law was against the adoption. He would keep saying that you both are not old or anything.

The Last Option

When I had just lost one eye my aunts would come home and say arey yaar, she is a girl, she has lost one eye. How will she get married, how will she live her life. They never considered that I was sitting right there and of course I could hear. It would impact me. So as a kid that time it got set in my brain that I am not going to get married, if I do, then the person has to accept me as I am, with all my challenges. And if he doesn't have the guts, then sorry I don't want to get married. Marriage is not the ultimate goal of my life. But I learnt later that it is not like that.