Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Struggling With My Body

'When I was younger I really struggled with issues related to my disability, sexuality, and especially incontinence. I remember having a relationship with someone who had never been with someone with a disability - it was new for both of us. I was so fearful about telling him that occasionally when I get sexually excited, I pee. I felt badly about my body and that I couldn't always 'control' it. He kept telling me it was okay and that I didn't need to worry. But it took a long time before I believed him.'

Struggling With My Body

'When I was younger I really struggled with issues related to my disability, sexuality, and especially incontinence. I remember having a relationship with someone who had never been with someone with a disability - it was new for both of us. I was so fearful about telling him that occasionally when I get sexually excited, I pee. I felt badly about my body and that I couldn't always 'control' it. He kept telling me it was okay and that I didn't need to worry. But it took a long time before I believed him.'

Questions

Question1 Doesn't sex have to involve another person?
Welcome to masturbation, which is all about solo sex (involving you, you and you). Sex with yourself involves you pleasuring your mind and body. Read more on Doesn't sex have to involve another person?

Question2 I am attracted to someone, but I am scared of being rejected.
Well, you're not alone! The fear of rejection is universal - irrespective of how old you are, what work you do, the way you look, and whether or not you are disabled. Read more on I am attracted to someone, but I am scared of being rejected.

Question3 My husband is also disabled. He refuses to have a child because he thinks I will start ignoring him. What do I do?
Try and think for a moment why he may feel this way. Does he think that your love for him will decrease? That you will no longer spend time together? Read more on My husband is also disabled. He refuses to have a child because he thinks I will start ignoring him. What do I do?