An Ingenious Way To Live
'I have an acquired disability; I became disabled over the course of a number of years... Prior to becoming disabled, I felt the usual pressures about my relationship to the ideal female body: I worried about my weight, my thighs, my butt, etc... I know I rather liked my wicked, winning sexual self. For the most part, however, I barely noticed -- tried not to notice -- my physical body. I worked in a world that professed admiration for the mind while pretending to ignore the body.
Being In A Wheelchair
'I was very nervous and didn't have the usual teenage experience of growing up and being aware of myself as a sexual person. All the emphasis on "the perfect body" doesn't help, especially since there's no way I could ever aspire to what is seen as ideal. Being in a wheelchair limits my ability to move in what you would consider the standard sexual ways. It can be hard enough discussing sex with an established partner, never mind having to be upfront from the start and really spell out the realities - for example, telling someone it hurts when he does that, I have no feeling there or I physically cannot manage to do that.